April 15, 2024
An often overlooked idea that will make you an instant success


Of the lofty goals people set for themselves year after year, how many do you think they reach?


My guess is that whatever the number is, it’s very low.

I’ll be honest. The number of goals I have committed to and achieved in my lifetime is probably less than 10%.

Every year, all year long, I spend hours in coffee shops around the world getting excited about goals. I drink coffee, I feel a boost of motivation, I feel like I can achieve anything, and I write down my goals and dreams.

I like to plan with pen and paper. I like to push myself to think about what I want to achieve.

Too often, the goals I wrote down in my notebook at the beginning of the year have been erased from my memory by the end of the year.

I don’t even remember what I wanted a few months ago.

I am inspired by planning and dreaming, even if many of those dreams get pushed to the dark room in the back of my mind.

And that’s okay. But what about the goals I have achieved? Surely it is a good goal to achieve if we can implement it?

of course it is. Life is a process, but we also need direction and we also want to win. Setting goals for yourself allows for both.

Recently I was reading Daniel Goleman’s book, CenterWhere he discusses that we find it difficult to focus on the future because it is abstract.

It’s easy to focus on the concerns we’re dealing with today, like paying our rent on time. It’s hard for us to take distant concerns seriously, like preparing for environmental damage or writing a book.

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Our struggle to stick to goals, especially long-term goals, also has a lot to do with it.

We need to plan for feeling as urgent as the need to pee after drinking four gallons of water at once.

Motivational speaker Eric Thomas says it best:

‘When you want to succeed as badly as you want to breathe, you will succeed.’

Goleman suggests that to make the future more concrete, we need to clearly imagine future threats as if they were immediate.

In doing so, we are more likely to act today in anticipation of future events.

When I look back at all the goals I have achieved, which are comparatively small, I realize that they were all more or less achieved because I knew very well how lousy it was. No That goal has to be achieved.

Like few years ago I was short of money and had a target to earn a certain amount through coaching within a month.

I hit that goal out of the park because the alternative wasn’t pleasant at all and I was constantly thinking about being hopelessly broke.

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If we think about why it would be useless No To achieve our goals, we will find the desire to reach them much more motivating.

Most of us who set goals prefer visualization and focusing on what we want.

Many people, including myself, tell us that we need to regularly reaffirm and reiterate our goals to make them more real now.

This is important but it also requires an additional ingredient.

We also need to emphasize the reality of not achieving our goals.

Instead of a goal being ‘something we want’, we need to make it an absolute must.

It’s the constant urgency that gets us there, and in a world of distractions and comfort, it’s really hard to stay motivated on one thing.

Most of the goals worth pursuing were achieved by people who had the mindset of: I’ll do whatever it takes, no matter what.

To continue the hip-hop theme, Eminem rapped about his journey to fame:

‘…I have to hatch a conspiracy or I will go to jail or get shot,
Success is my only option, not failure…’

Is he conscious or not? Successful people constantly remind themselves why they can’t afford to fail.

And this is what we can do to create a stronger motivation towards getting what we want.

Imagine and know direction. Be clear on the goal. Write down your vision regularly.

But we also need the other side. We need to live, feel, assimilate and really understand everything that is not good in order to not reach that goal.

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to start with:

1. Write a list of all the reasons why you don’t reach your goal.

Having low goals helps here and makes them easier to achieve.

What will you miss?

How will you regret not doing this in old age?

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Why wouldn’t this be painful?

What do you risk by not going for it?

2. Write a list of all the reasons why this goal should be achieved.

What opportunities will this goal bring to your life?

How can you contribute better?

How will you grow as a person by working toward and achieving a goal?

What will your life look like when you achieve this?

Who will thank you when you’re there and what will they say?

This exercise, done regularly, will fill your goal with emotions, even tears, making it more real and urgent to you.

Doing this can also make you reconsider what is important in your life.

Remind yourself of your why every day, and use this passion, this purpose, to overcome it every day.

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Alex Mathers is an author and coach who helps you build a money-making personal brand with your knowledge and skills while staying mentally flexible.

This article was originally published on Medium. Reprinted with permission of the author.

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