April 19, 2024
4 micro habits that will make you more disciplined than 98% of people


When people think of discipline, the word Will-Power Usually comes to mind – motivating yourself to work hard or stay focused.

But if you look closely at highly disciplined people, you’ll notice something surprising…

Disciplined people do not rely on willpower.

Sure, they use it from time to time. But willpower is not their main tool for getting things done.

Instead, highly disciplined people develop a mindset that helps them consistently accomplish great things without using willpower.

Here are 4 micro habits that will make you more disciplined than most people:

1. Doing too much

Perhaps the biggest misconception I see among people who struggle to be disciplined is their “do more” mentality…

He believes that being focused and productive comes from doing more things…

  • Using another app or to-do list system to stay focused
  • Using more positive self-talk and affirmations to motivate yourself to work out
  • Reading more self-help books and watching more YouTube videos about how to be productive

Now, there’s nothing wrong with any of these things… I enjoy a good self-help book as much as anyone!

The problem is the underlying belief behind them that says: “If I want to be more disciplined I need to do more.”

But here’s the problem…

A do-more mentality leads to even more time, energy, and resources being wasted on everything other than the actual work you need to do.

Instead, truly disciplined people take the opposite approach and cultivate progress through subtraction Mentality.

They know that generally the best way to stay focused and get meaningful work done – especially creative work – is to remove distractions and obstacles and let their natural motivation pull them toward progress.

For example:

  • Instead of researching another app to help make your writing habit productive, try uninstalling all but the most essential apps from your computer so you’ll be less distracted when you sit down to write.
  • Instead of trying to add more positive emotions to your mind whenever you feel insecure and fearful about your work, focus on eliminating negative self-talk and chronic anxiety.
  • Instead of spending more time researching and looking for inspiration than you feel ready, instead of constantly tinkering with everything and never making any real progress, lower your expectations and complete a small portion of your planned project. Try.

Here’s the main idea behind progressing through the subtraction mindset:

It is usually more productive to spend your energy removing obstacles and friction points than trying to add motivation, discipline or willpower.

So, the next time you find yourself stuck, procrastinating, or just wishing you were more disciplined, ask yourself this question: What can I remove or reduce that will help me do better?

“The more we try with conscious will to do something, the less we will succeed. Efficiency and results come only to those who have learned the contradictory art of doing and not doing, or the combination of relaxation with activity.

– Aldous Huxley

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2. Knowing what is the most powerful source of inspiration

People who are consistently disciplined are also highly motivated.

Which is understandable. It’s much easier to stay disciplined, focused, and productive when you feel motivated to get things done.

But how do these people stay so motivated all the time? Were they born like this?

Here’s the thing about motivation that most people don’t understand…

The most powerful source of motivation is progress.

For example:

  • If you complete the first section in good time you will be more likely to stay focused and complete the report you are working on.
  • If you successfully write some code every morning, you’ll be more likely to stay focused and ship that new app you have an idea for.
  • You’ll be more likely to stay focused and write a weekly newsletter each week if you write a short section each day.

The main thing to know about progress as a motivator is…

The size of progress has nothing to do with how motivated it makes you feel.

Simply making some progress – even if small amounts – will significantly increase your motivation, meaning you’re much more likely to stay focused and disciplined.

This leads to this mentality: When you get stuck, break it.

Whenever you find yourself procrastinating or stuck, break the work into smaller parts or tasks.

Because whenever you make even the slightest progress, your brain will reward you with more motivation. And if you’re constantly completing small chunks of work, you’ll have a constant supply of motivation.

To the outside world you will appear incredibly disciplined. But inside you will know that it is true that you are always motivated by making continuous progress because you are smart enough to break down big projects into smaller parts.

Memorization…

Progress is the best motivator. And the best way to always make progress is to break your work into smaller pieces.

“You have to show up before the inspiration comes.”

– James Clear

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3. Ruthlessly eliminating everything else except what you’re focusing on

The less but better mentality is about allowing yourself to focus on what really matters and ruthlessly eliminate everything else.

At first, it can be challenging because of FOMO (fear of missing out):

  • I didn’t want to say no to that new idea of ​​starting a podcast – what if it was really popular?!
  • I don’t want to spend the whole morning working on just one thing – multitasking energizes me!
  • I don’t want to limit my business to one narrow product – what if the other three ideas become a hit?!

Imagining new things to work on gives you a brief jolt of dopamine and the illusion of progress. But this is just another form of procrastination that makes it difficult to be disciplined.

But in the long run, all these shiny new items sap your motivation and make it harder to stay disciplined and focused because you’re stretched too thin for a long time.

On the other hand, when you say no to all the trivial things, all your energy and attention gets devoted to the one or two things that matter. This inevitably leads to more progress, keeping your motivation high and your discipline strong.

So, do your best to avoid the tempting call of doing too many things. It feels exciting in the short term, but it drains you in the end.

Instead, make the uncomfortable decision to say no to most things so you have the energy to say yes to the right things, this is where true discipline comes from.

“You don’t need more discipline, you just need a better reason to be disciplined.”

– Jack Butcher

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4. Prioritizing values ​​over emotions

The ultimate mindset of highly disciplined people is to prioritize your values ​​over your emotions.

Now, this doesn’t mean that your feelings are bad or that you should ignore them. Your emotions can be a tremendous source of inner wisdom and intuition. But they can also lead you astray…

For example:

  • You sit down to work, feel the urge to procrastinate, and follow that feeling to mindlessly scroll through social media.
  • You’re halfway through a task, get distracted by an email that sounds exciting, and follow that feeling into your inbox, which results in a phone call, which results in the rest of the morning. You get distracted and lose your momentum and progress. were making.

Your feelings are like a good friend giving you advice… sometimes it’s helpful, sometimes it’s not helpful.

And when we have trouble staying focused and disciplined, a big part of the reason is because we followed our emotions when they didn’t align with our values ​​– what we want long-term.

On the other hand, people who are extremely productive and disciplined always check their emotions with their values…

  • Let’s say you’re feeling excited to start coding that new project you’ve been wanting to work on… does it match your values ​​and what you want to focus on? Yes, great, full power ahead!
  • But let’s say you’re feeling excited to call your best friend and talk about all the new things you’re working on… whether it aligns with your values ​​or with theirs. Is it a contradiction? Well, it certainly sounds more fun than working on the task in front of you, but it conflicts with your value of working hard on the essential things first. In this case, it is best to choose your values ​​above your emotions.

It is a misconception that highly disciplined people somehow ignore or suppress their emotions.

In contrast, highly disciplined people have a healthy relationship with their emotions – they are always aware of what they are feeling and listen to these emotions, but they are not controlled by them. And when their emotions conflict with their values, they recognize it and choose values ​​first.

At the end of the day, being a truly disciplined person means making a habit of asking yourself what is truly in your best interest rather than doing what you do on impulse. feels Right now. In other words, they are clear about their values.

It’s a simple question but in the end it makes a big difference: What do I want?

“The world offers you comfort. But you are not made for comfort. You are made for greatness.”

-Joseph Ratzinger

Highly disciplined people don’t have any more willpower than the rest of us. Instead, they develop a mindset that helps them consistently do good work.

Photo: Rafael Barros/Pexels

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Nick Wignall is a psychologist and author who shares practical advice for emotional health and well-being. He is the founder of The Friendly Minds Newsletter.

This article was originally published on Medium. Reprinted with permission of the author.

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